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A sex date is a sacred time to practice erotic spontaneity.♦◊♦Sometimes people tell you it doesn’t matter how often you make love, but it does, especially for men.
It doesn’t have to be marathon, swinging from the ceiling sex.It can be what I call in my book, “maintenance sex.” Sometimes, maintenance sex turns into great sex. Sex does improve dramatically when you can tell your partner what you desire in bed. Most of us think, But there are other ways to show your partner what turns you on.And sometimes, even “roll over” sex on a Tuesday night can make the frustrations of Wednesday a lot easier to deal with. Try not using words and use silence as your sex toy one night.You might find that you snap at each other less, you are more affectionate and you want sex more often as a result. No sound can tell you more than you ever knew about what turns your partner on.But as a Board Certified Sexologist and a Ph D Certified Sex Therapist, I am here to tell you that what you think you know about having great sex is simply not the whole story.Here are the five keys to great sex, and these apply to straight couples, gay couples, young, old, married or living together.♦◊♦Sometimes couples think that only spontaneous sex is great sex. Back when you were dating, if you went out on a Saturday night and you thought there was the chance that you were going to have sex, you shaved your legs (or face), you wore sexy underwear, you prepared. In fact, making a date for sex can create what I call “sexual anticipation,” which, for women, creates more desire for sex. Sexual anticipation is a good way to create that arousal, because it cooks up all kinds of fantasies in their minds about what could happen on the sex date.
Let us marinate in the idea for a while and remind us of what you are going to do to us when we get there.
(If you are going to make love to a woman on a Saturday, start on Wednesday.) Tell us you can’t wait to see us naked, kiss our neck, leave a note in our lunch, put a rose on the bed. Great sex means you can be as spontaneous as you want, if you plan it. Light a candle, put on some sexy music and create the space for a great erotic night.
Your friends have probably given you sex advice, you may have Googled around for “hot tips,” or maybe you even get your sex advice standing in line at the grocery store flipping through magazines.
Spoiler alert: You can ignore most of what you’ve heard.
But the truth is that most of the sex in movies, porn and in magazine articles is not actually great sex.
Maybe your friends told you a thing or two when you were out drinking, or maybe you picked up some tips in your last relationship.