Advice on dating as a single mom
Advice on dating as a single mom - Adult Chat Rooms
She is a fish out of water and she will act like it.
I missed out on the 10 years of dating and hard knock life lessons of an un-committed Gen X'er.My advice is to be sensitive to her single/dating immaturity.She's only known the security of married life -- all in and completely devoted.Taking it slow and playing a smooth game is not her M. Remember, she spent every night for years with the same person.We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.We are responsible for their well-being and daily survival.
Hidden under the layers of responsibility lie our own needs, which resurface as we disengage from our identity as a married woman.
Recently, several of my freshly divorced friends have confided in me about their struggles.
They share the same feelings (as I did and do) of excitement, trepidation, anxiety, confusion and fear over their newborn single status.
I've made up for all of the years of inexperience in the dating pool, earning a rap sheet full of mistakes and heartbreaks.
I still don't understand the game of love, but I do understand my needs as a woman and mother.
Some of which, I believe, are universal to single mothers in my age bracket. I spent the entire decade of my 20s hibernating in the cave of accelerated adulthood -- planning a wedding, building a home, getting pregnant, having miscarriages, getting pregnant again, breastfeeding, home making and child-rearing.